Parenting is hard. Parenting to ensure children have a successful life can be even harder. Parenting is not fun at times.
Teaching children the right lessons can be so difficult that you just want to scream and give up.
But don’t give up.
Your children need you to help them teach the hard lessons otherwise they will expect life to be easy when it’s not.
It may also seem that the lessons you try to teach are not being listened to and then it frustrates both parent and child alike.
Read on for some fun ways to help your child learn the hard lessons they need to learn.
Fun Ways to Help Your Child Learn Hard Lessons
1 - Teach Throughout the Good Periods
Have you noticed that when your child is upset or angry nothing will get through to them?
They don’t understand reason or common sense at those times. As parents, we soon realize that children take in more, understand more, when they are calmer and happier. In this case, relation teaches better than rectification.
When your child is happy, their brain sees an increase of dopamine levels. Studies have indicated that when a child is happy and feeling positive they are more able to work out problems and complex situations that call for concentration and have a better performance than what they do when they are angry or sad.
Through the use of more pleasurable activities and tasks as well as a comfortable environment, children take in more information. But with all things, they should still be subject to certain guidelines that need to be applied.
These include setting boundaries, taking note of certain aspects that your child may be find difficult, and waiting to talk until they are in a better mood.
Other guidelines to adhere to include talking to them, as they will understand and relate to you, as well as spending quality time with them on a regular basis.
2 - Teaching via Play
When we play (yes, that does include us adults, too) our brains see an increase of dopamine. An increase level of dopamine means that we understand complex situations more, we learn quicker and we make more connections with others, too.
Through play, we teach some of the greatest lessons children can learn, such as setting goals, talking to people with respect, respecting boundaries, being kind, having compassion and numerous other great teachings.
Creative playtime can help children communicate their emotions and allow their imaginations to run wild. Sport play can help children become competitive in a healthy way as well as working as part of a team.
Creating peer relationships can help increase trust, self-esteem and listening to other people’s opinions – aspects which will be useful in adult life.
3 - Family Night
Family life isn’t easy all the time and if you have at least two children arguments and squabbles can be frequent. Even if your child is an only child, a family night is good for several reasons.
- You can address any issues you may be facing as a family and as individual family members.
- You can work on solving any issues together such as remaining calm when a situation escalates.
- It strengthens the family unit and can help reduce any future conflicts.
Have one night out of the week and spend it together as a family. Cook together, eat together, clear up together and play games together.
You may not realize it, but a family night can make your child feel loved, wanted, appreciated and secure – all the essential ingredients needed to make a success of their lives.
4 - Read to Your Children
A few words on some paper may not seem a big deal but those words can have a bigger impact on a child’s brain than what you may realize. Children learn from tales, relating to the characters and learning important lessons from those books.
A good way of teaching your child valuable life lessons is through reading.
From as early as you can, read to your child. Use books that have the right messages – books that teach right from wrong, and how to problem solve.
What makes this technique so appealing to both adults and children is that the characters can sometimes have a bigger impact on a child’s brain than what a parent can do in a week.
Fictional characters can help a child question what they think they know and help them think problems through. Best of all, since the message is not coming from you, the parent, they are not likely to get defensive.
As we can see, it is vital for your child to learn how to look and deal with any issues they may face from an early age. We can also see that a child learns best when they are happy and not full of anxieties.
This means that we, as parents, can try to have fun with our children as we teach them all the key ingredients so that they can continue working towards success.