The goal of every parent should be to raise happy children. If your child is happy, he is more likely to be successful in life.
Here are a few more tips that can help make single parenting a delight and a flourishing endeavor.
1. Be a good role model
To raise happy kids, you need to be a good role model. If your child sees you as negative, how can you expect him to have a positive aura?
Your child watches how you deal with life. You cannot preach what you don’t practice and you cannot expect your lessons to be effective when your child doesn’t see you do it yourself.
2. Lighten up
Set up your child for social success by laughing and joking with him. Help him think creatively and manage stress effectively.
Do not be too strict and too stiff. Give room for fun in the home and see your child bloom.
3. Let him play
While it may seem like leisure to you, your child is actually developing crucial, real life skills through play.
It prepares his minds for the challenges ahead and allows him to learn people’s feelings and his own emotions as well as how to relate and master social rules.
Being active is also good for his physical health.
4. Teach self-compassion
Self-esteem is raised when you praise your child and honor what he is becoming and what he has done. Self-compassion means treating yourself kindly.
Allow your child to make mistakes, but encourage him to do better. Let him realize that there are highs and lows in life.
Build his creativity and resilience with your words and actions. How you celebrate his successes and respond to his failures help mold his character.
5. Discipline well
It is important to correct challenging behavior. However, make sure to target discipline at shaping future behavior.
Punishing what’s past may give your child a wrong view of himself.
For example, giving extreme punishment such as spanking may teach your child to treat himself harshly every time he fails or does something wrong. It is never motivational.
The child may grow up to be self-critical. On the other hand, compassionate discipline helps the child understand that harmful behaviors need to be corrected.
See things from your child’s point of view. It could be that he doesn’t know any better,or he doesn’t understand your rules. He may not be doing the mistake intentionally and you judge it as wrong behavior.
Help him build social skills and habits and social skills that will help him in life. If he hurts his friend, for example, let him reflect upon it, feel bad about his action and think of ways to correct and avoid it in the future.
Knowing your child is the best way to raise him. There is no one-size-fits-all style of parenting. You just need to understand the basic: foster a warm and secure bond with your child.
This will let him know that he has a place of comfort to go to and his needs will be met. This will also give him the freedom to make mistakes and grow, with boundaries.
Never be judgmental.
One parent can be overindulgent, another overprotective. Different methods work for different children.
Keep in mind that raising children is not a competition. Let parenting be a joy and you will see that you will raise happy kids.